21 queer wedding songs: 11 LGBTQIA+ love songs that are perfect for weddings - UPDATED FOR 2026
Planning your wedding playlist and want something that actually reflects you and your relationship? You’re in the right place.
This is a collection of queer wedding songs that go beyond the usual love song clichés, from soft, romantic first dance tracks to joyful, celebratory bops. Whether you're planning a slow dance, a walk down the aisle or just want your day to feel more like you, these songs are a brilliant place to start.
It goes without saying that weddings are the ultimate opportunity for a good love song marathon, and if you're an LGBTQ+ couple, you're likely to want a good dose of songs that feel relevant to your love story on your wedding playlist. As a queer wedding photographer, I know how lacking a lot of wedding playlists can be when it comes to LGBTQ+ representation! Use this list as a starting point for your perfect wedding playlist. Some of the tunes below are love songs by queer artists, and others are explicitly about queer love; all make a great addition to any wedding playlist. And who knows - one might even be your perfect first dance song!
What makes a great queer wedding song?
Not every love song feels like it was written with queer relationships in mind, and that matters, especially when we’re talking about something as important and personal as your wedding day.
In my opinion, the best queer wedding songs tend to:
feel gender-neutral or explicitly queer
reflect real relationships and experiences
focus on connection, not clichés
feel authentic to you (this is the most important one)
With this in mind, read on for a range of suggestions to get those queer-playlist cogs turning…
LGBTQIA+ wedding songs
1. She Keeps Me Warm - Mary Lambert
Ideal for: First dance
You'll likely know this from the beautiful Macklemore song 'Same Love', and Lambert used her part on that song to inspire this full version. It's an absolutely beautiful, wedding-ready lesbian love song.
2. Mystery of Love - Sufjan Stevens
Ideal for: Dinner playlist
Anyone who, like me, has watched Call Me By Your Name approximately 500 times and cried each and every one, will be very familiar with this hauntingly beautiful tune. It's a fairly lengthy slow burner, but could be perfect for an intimate and understated first dance or just a beautiful bit of background music.
3. At My Most Beautiful - R.E.M
Ideal for: First dance
Fancy something a bit different with a 90s throwback vibe? R.E.M's 'At My Most Beautiful' is a track off their 1998 album 'Up', and has gorgeously romantic lyrics.
4. Friday, I'm In Love - Phoebe Bridgers
Ideal for: Dinner playlist, aisle walk, register signing
Featuring Phoebe's trademark haunting vocals, this stunning cover of The Cure's classic is a real spine-tingler.
5. Loving Her - Katie Pruitt
Ideal for: Dinner playlist
Goose-pimply gorgeous gay country vibes.
6. All I Want Is To Be Your Girl - Holly Miranda
Ideal for: Drinks reception or a fun, upbeat first dance
If you want something a little jauntier and more upbeat, this is a great choice.
7. Easy - Pale Waves
Ideal for: Dinner, drinks reception
A little something for those wanting to channel their inner emo.
8. Pretty Lady - Tash Sultana
Ideal for: Dinner, drinks reception
You can always rely on Tash Sultana for top quality musicianship, emotive vocals and that special 'something' that's a little bit different.
9. La Vie En Rose - Lucy Dacus
Ideal for: A fun first dance, or pretty much any other time during the day!
If you want something really different for your first dance, Lucy Dacus' upbeat take on this romantic classic might be right up your street.
10. If There Was No You - Brandi Carlisle
Ideal for: First dance, register signing
Another one that might be a bit fast for a first dance, but would make a great addition to a slightly rockier wedding playlist. Brandi also has enormous amounts of brilliant music to consider on for your wedding, so go do some digging!
11. I Like That - Janelle Monae
Ideal for: Drinks reception, dinner
I couldn't not include Janelle Monae in this list because she is an absolute icon of queer music and I LOVE HER. 'I Like That' is a bit more sedate than some of her other tunes, making it great 'during the day' music for any queer wedding. If you're wanting to add something more upbeat for your evening playlist, it has to be "Make Me Feel'.
2026 updates
So many incredible queer artists have come along since I first wrote this article, so it’s well past time for an update! This time I’ve enlisted my ever-helpful Instagram gang for suggestions and inspiration. See below for some more ideas for gorgeously queer songs for your wedding!
12. You and Me on the Rock - Brandi Carlile
Ideal for: An upbeat first dance, drinks reception, dinner, register signing (I mean, anything really)
We knew there was going to be more Brandi on this list because she is very high on my list of queer icons. This is a happy little bop, and if you wanna get right into your big gay feels, Brandi and her wife Katherine do a gorgeous live version.
13. Love Me Anyway - Chappell Roan
Ideal for: Register signing, drinks reception, dinner
Lets be honest, no list of queer music is complete without an entry from Chappell. This is a sweet and dreamy number that would make for lovely background music.
14. Juna - Clairo
Ideal for: Drinks reception, dinner
Chilled, vibey deliciousness. Guaranteed to create a sultry late-night-cocktail-bar-just-the-two-of-us vibe.
15. Best Guess (wedding version)- Lucy Dacus
Ideal for: First dance
Super delicate and intimate, this would be stunning first dance song that wouldn’t leave a dry eye in the house.
16. Casual- Chappell Roan
Ideal for: Drink reception, dinner
A second entry from Queen Chappell, this was a recommendation from someone on Instagram. This is a gorgeous slower offering compared to some of her other numbers, and would be lovely background music.
17. we fell in love in october - girl in red
Ideal for: First dance
I LOVE this as a sapphic first dance option. It’s so dreamy and nostalgic and romantic, whilst offering something a little unconventional. Big fan.
18. Spectrum - Florence and the Machine
Ideal for: That bit after dinner and before the first dance
A more upbeat option from this queer ally and icon. I can see this working reaaally well in that funny time between dinner and DJ, when it’s not quite disco time but you wanna start guiding everyone towards the party-ready versions of themselves.
19. Good Girl - Renee Rapp
Ideal for: Prep, drinks reception
Bring a chilled, 80s-esque pop vibe, this would be great to keep the energy up during your drinks reception, and would also bring a lush energy to prep!
20. Lucky- Malinda
Ideal for: First dance, register signing
My wonderful couple Yaz & Eilidh had this gorgeous tune during their register signing (you can see their STUNNING UK beach wedding over on the blog) and it gives me goosies when I listen to it. Folky, euphoric, and pure queer joy. Perfect for every part of the day, but I reckon this would be a beautiful first dance option.
